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Aug 24, 2006 21:54:38 GMT -5
Post by misty on Aug 24, 2006 21:54:38 GMT -5
OMG! INaBOX, you just caused me to have the most disgusting vision....birds &chewed up worms....and....enough said!
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Aug 24, 2006 21:59:53 GMT -5
Post by INaBOX on Aug 24, 2006 21:59:53 GMT -5
Well everytime I think of chewing food that many times .. I see them birds. It's a given! LOL
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Aug 24, 2006 22:05:54 GMT -5
Post by jj on Aug 24, 2006 22:05:54 GMT -5
Oh no!!!! It is bad enough that texture of food just grosses me out in so many ways and now I'll be thinking of worms. I'll get you for this INabox!!! ROTFL
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Aug 24, 2006 22:07:15 GMT -5
Post by misty on Aug 24, 2006 22:07:15 GMT -5
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Aug 24, 2006 22:18:09 GMT -5
Post by INaBOX on Aug 24, 2006 22:18:09 GMT -5
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Aug 24, 2006 22:22:34 GMT -5
Post by misty on Aug 24, 2006 22:22:34 GMT -5
Don't cry, INaBox, I'll protect you from that MEANIE JJ!
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Aug 25, 2006 2:21:59 GMT -5
Post by jj on Aug 25, 2006 2:21:59 GMT -5
Oh, gee...now I feel bad I made her cry. O.K. Your safe...I won't get you back.
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Aug 25, 2006 23:18:07 GMT -5
Post by misty on Aug 25, 2006 23:18:07 GMT -5
Oh, gee...now I feel bad I made her cry. O.K. Your safe...I won't get you back. See? Told you I'd protect you, INaBOX!!
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Aug 26, 2006 23:39:12 GMT -5
Post by INaBOX on Aug 26, 2006 23:39:12 GMT -5
lol
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Aug 27, 2006 0:40:06 GMT -5
Post by jj on Aug 27, 2006 0:40:06 GMT -5
You know, just thinking about this manners thing and I remember my niece would get in these goofy stages...I think I mentioned in another post...like pretending she was a horse or cat and at the dinner table she would be doing all these noises while eating. I had forgotten about this. My sister would tell her to stop but she would just think it was funny (and laugh with her mouth wide open) and continue doing the noises. Thank goodness she seemed to pass out of this stage!!
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Aug 28, 2006 20:52:16 GMT -5
Post by katiekat on Aug 28, 2006 20:52:16 GMT -5
At least your kids are eating while they're talking. Mine is so busy talking he doesnt even think to eat.
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Aug 28, 2006 21:10:17 GMT -5
Post by jj on Aug 28, 2006 21:10:17 GMT -5
Oh no! That is worrisome when they don't eat. Guess I would take the talking with the mouth full over worring whether my kid were getting enough nutrition.
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Aug 28, 2006 23:49:31 GMT -5
Post by misty on Aug 28, 2006 23:49:31 GMT -5
At least your kids are eating while they're talking. Mine is so busy talking he doesnt even think to eat. Maybe you could try a game. 5 minutes of eating could equal 5 minutes of talking. each time he talks during the eating time, he gets docked a minute of talking time. Or start with 3 minute intervals if 5 minutes seems too long.
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Aug 29, 2006 13:10:06 GMT -5
Post by katiekat on Aug 29, 2006 13:10:06 GMT -5
Great idea Misty! Im trying it tonight at dinner. Any ideas for keeping him from getting out of his seat 50 times besides me saying sit down 50 times??!!
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Aug 29, 2006 13:17:39 GMT -5
Post by misty on Aug 29, 2006 13:17:39 GMT -5
Duct tape??? JUST KIDDING!!! Hmm.....I'd work on the eating first. If you have too many orders being shot at him at once, he may not feel he can succeed at any & you'll end up accomplishing nothing. Once you get the eating rules well established, I think I'd think of some reward for staying in his seat. If you are dessert people, maybe having dessert could be ONLY if he stays in his seat for the allotted time (maybe start with 15 minutes & up the time as he becomes able to do it). If not dessert, maybe his after dinner activites could be the reward. Whatever he likes to do. Some computer time, reading a story together. Some reward that doesn't cost money but is rewarding to him.
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Aug 29, 2006 18:02:32 GMT -5
Post by jj on Aug 29, 2006 18:02:32 GMT -5
Great idea Misty! Im trying it tonight at dinner. Any ideas for keeping him from getting out of his seat 50 times besides me saying sit down 50 times??!! I not sure if that is possible. LOL I know I can't stay seated very long or I'm squirming all over the place and I consider myself only a tiny bit hyper. I just get a urge to get up and it is almost painful if I don't. I know some parents just let their kids stand and eat. Not appropriate for eating out in a nice restaurant but for home...well??? And who knows, if you allow him to stand he may not find the urge to talk as much and maybe eat more??? Just a thought....
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Sept 1, 2006 20:38:29 GMT -5
Post by INaBOX on Sept 1, 2006 20:38:29 GMT -5
Great idea Misty! Im trying it tonight at dinner. Any ideas for keeping him from getting out of his seat 50 times besides me saying sit down 50 times??!! Have him eat standing up .. as long as he stays at the table. He obviously can't sit still for long periods of time and if he's talking a lot during dinner time, I'm guessing it takes quite a long time by the time he's done. I think it's kind of mean to force a child to sit in his chair if he really physically can't. Maybe you can use this same method Misty just offered to you about the eating .. and combine it with the walking. ie: eat/drink 3 minutes; walk/talk 3 minutes; eat/drink 3 minutes .. etc. See if it works.
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Sept 1, 2006 20:44:19 GMT -5
Post by INaBOX on Sept 1, 2006 20:44:19 GMT -5
Another idea that may work is to have him sit in a semi-inflated beach ball. This will give him the motion he may be needing. If it works well, you can replace the ball with a disc'o seat (cushion). My son uses one at school and it seems to work well.
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Try tying a theraband (you can buy them at fitness centers/stores) around the front two legs of his chair. Have him place his feet in between the theraband. This will give him the resistance he may need by kicking against it instead of having to get up out of his chair.
Just a few suggestions.
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Sept 2, 2006 0:57:20 GMT -5
Post by jj on Sept 2, 2006 0:57:20 GMT -5
Great suggestions Inabox!!! I'm thinking I may need a theraband for me at work.....and for my chair I am sitting in right now.
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Dec 3, 2006 14:14:37 GMT -5
Post by candyhound on Dec 3, 2006 14:14:37 GMT -5
i was alway much better mannered when i wasnt at home. lol i guess it was because i was comfortable with my family and knew they couldnt possably think any less of me. lol
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Dec 4, 2006 12:54:36 GMT -5
Post by notellin on Dec 4, 2006 12:54:36 GMT -5
I wrote a list of 6 table manners in big writing and taped them on the wall so that he could see them while eating. Before dinner I had him read the rules. Then during dinner if he violated a rule, I asked him to get up, walk over to the rules and read rule number " " out loud. This changed his table manners from atrocious to barely acceptable. I think I did this for 6 months. Now I just repeat myself over and over at the table.
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Post by jj on Dec 5, 2006 0:13:41 GMT -5
I'm just curious. Does everyones kids act the same way out in public or do they use their table manners when eating out or in other homes? I ask because if they do use their manners than isn't that ultimately what a parent is teaching them manners for? Maybe at home it could be a bit more relaxed if indeed they are well behave outside the home??? Just a thought.
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Post by misty on Dec 5, 2006 9:29:07 GMT -5
You're right JJ...That is why we teach table manners...so they don't look like pigs in public..LOL! I am a bit more relaxed at home except for the noises! I cannot stand to hear lip smacking while I'm eating, so I insist that she chew with her mouth closed!
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Dec 5, 2006 10:50:33 GMT -5
Post by farrah on Dec 5, 2006 10:50:33 GMT -5
JJ you are right, my kids have good table manners away from home.
I solved the bouncing around by taking the food away and saying when your ready to sit and eat you can come back to the table....it worked for both daughters.
my problem is cheryl uses both her hands to eat with, and most evrything she considers finger food. its disqusting, watching her push food on to her spoon with one hand. so we know make her sit on her hand and only eat with one.
but i wonder if the band you mention would work with her arm.
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Dec 5, 2006 12:11:14 GMT -5
Post by notellin on Dec 5, 2006 12:11:14 GMT -5
My son's table manners are slightly better when we are out in public. He refrains from doing the really disgusting things, like licking the entire palm of his hand and fingers.
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Dec 5, 2006 17:17:44 GMT -5
Post by alan on Dec 5, 2006 17:17:44 GMT -5
I find for my son with ADHD that his manners are very good but his behaviour can still be bad. I tend to try to play games with him when we sit to eat to occupy him or else he kicks off. At the moment when he is finished he tries to bolt !!
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Dec 5, 2006 17:45:17 GMT -5
Post by Charlie Girl on Dec 5, 2006 17:45:17 GMT -5
My kids both have wonderful manners when in public or when we have guests. When its just the immediate family, its not too bad anymore but I do have to remind my son at times. I thought we'd never get there.
One thing I did was impress on him that the people you love and who love you should be treated with respect and courtesy more than strangers. Its show they are of value to you. I think that was what turned the corner with us as far as manners.
Now if my son would just learn to be respectful when talking with us, I'd be happy. I think he really doesn't realize what he sounds like and how he is coming across. He is just being himself at home. He still has problems with inappropriate comments towards others also, so that indicates that I am right. He doesn't like being embarassed so he wouldn't be that way if he realized he was.
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Dec 11, 2006 16:44:12 GMT -5
Post by unicorn-tiff'smom on Dec 11, 2006 16:44:12 GMT -5
Tiff has very good manners when we are out in public or when she is at a friends house. Misty - I do agree, I have taught her good manners overall, not just about eating. And we are a bit more relaxed at home too, then out in public. But she knows appropriate manners all around.
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