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Post by jabg92 on Jan 10, 2006 17:43:29 GMT -5
 #1angry2# It ticks me off royally how some parents can be just as mean as the kids. Since before Christmas break, our daughter keeps saying she has no friends and a little girl (who was her best buddy) who keeps saying our girl is bullying HER! It is gotten where the parents have been calling the teacher at home and comes in every morning complaining about our child. What upsets me the most is that I thought these parents were our friends! They always walk their child to class, which is fine, I drop my child off at the "loop". That is her choice. She does not have to cross a road. She has to walk about 10 ft and she is in the building. A few more feet, and she is in her class. She likes to feel "big and independent". She is an only child as well as the former friend. I am,too. I know kids will be kids, but come on, parents! Is it because our daughter has ADHD and you feel like she is to blame??? Well, today my daughter asked me to do something she never asks....would I walk her to class and talk to her teacher? Of course I did. I told the teacher I was not there to complain, but to get at the bottom of this situation. It turns out that my child is innocent! The teacher said she told the parents that my child was not in the wrong, but theirs was. They couldn't believe it! She had other teachers and aides to back this up. I know these children are only in the 1st grade, and I am not trying to flip out and all, but why my kid? She is well liked and very outgoing, has a big heart. This other child even talks back to her parents, and then to get out of being disciplined, she whips up some tears quickly and makes her self vomit. Okay, y'all I guess I have ranted enough! What I would like to know does anyone feel like there is a prejudice because of ADHD??
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Post by cynthiatweedle on Jan 10, 2006 21:39:53 GMT -5
I haven't had any prejudice as yet, but so sorry you have. However, the school at least is standing with you. Bless your daughter's heart. So sad she has to go through this.
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Post by Charlie Girl on Jan 10, 2006 23:24:20 GMT -5
It sounds more like bad parenting than ADHD prejudice to me. Their  does something bratty and blames your daughter and they don't believe their child can ever do anything wrong, even in the face of credible witnesses. Personally, I wouldn't want to try to influence my child to be friends with her. Chances are, she would teach your child to either to do the same thing or would set her up for a really big fall. #00sign_wasntme# I knew someone once who was just like that. She never changed and she grew up to be just like that as a young adult, to the point of trying to get people fired because her job was on the line and they were getting praised. (She tried doing it to me but it didn't work. It did make for a miserable time at work and I left as soon as I could after I realized what she was doing.) I sincerely hope that the little shark got a taste of her own medicine when she moved from her little pond into the big ocean! #00hahahaha# I would love to think she received the same treatment from someone and learned a lesson from it. I doubt that it happened though. Take my word for it, parents like that just believe everything their little monster tells them. It isn't prejudice, its more a matter of thinking their kid is better than anyone else's. #00smily1070# Thats my take on it anyway. |
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Post by misty on Jan 10, 2006 23:49:26 GMT -5
Dont you wish you could just wave your magic wand & make everything fair?  I think Barb hit the nail on the head. And being that even the teachers see it as the other girls fault, I imagine the other kids do too. Whats sad is that with parents that act that way, the poor child never has a chance!  Her parents are doing her a great disservice! I think the most you can do is explain it in terms your daughter can understand & encourage her to be the better person & just be polite to the other child. My DD is in 5th grade & I've never seen prejudice toward her for ADHD....but then, shes not hyper so its not obvious just from observing her. I HAVE seen kids be mean & nasty for no reason. In fact, my DD has always chosen boys as friends over girls because girls can be so mean & so catty.  |
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Post by jabg92 on Jan 11, 2006 9:58:40 GMT -5
#00hugging# #00GreatSmiles# #00sign_thanks# Hey everybody! Thanks for the support with this! You know I hope I didn't come off to you all as a complainer, but hey, don't mess with my baby,lol! I am a mean red-headed, hot-headed mamma!  Ok, let me be serious for a second here...Our daughter told us last night that the "lil' brat" wanted to play with her, and Morgan(our daughter) told her only if she can be nice and not bossy to her, she would play with her. If not, Morgan told her she would walk away from her. Way to go, Morgan!! I wonder if our teacher got a call from the brat's parents last night. That kid kept staring at me when I was talking to the teacher yesterday morning. I think she knew she was busted!!! Like I said yesteday, I know kids will be kids, but when Morgan asked me to go into her class with her yesterda morning, she told me that we had to "solve this problem today!" I just had to help her out!!! #33fantastic# |
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Post by jabg92 on Jan 11, 2006 12:03:39 GMT -5
{In fact, my DD has always chosen boys as friends over girls because girls can be so mean & so catty.}
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I agree to this,too. I work at a salvage yard as a secretary and I am the only woman here. I have a blast! When I worked at a previous office-full of women-the backstabbing and just plain rotten behavior was rampant! No offense to any woman here, but that is how it was. Morgan does play some of the little boys at recess. She likes sports and plays basketball with them at times. My hubby and I were talking about this problem with the little girl and her parents and he said this was a "character check" on their part. We also found out they have been calling OTHER PARENTS about Morgan!!!!!! #00insanity# One of the parents that told me this said that this family has done this before,and they she told them that she was not going to be dragged in on this crap and not to call her again trying to start more trouble! #00lalala# So that makes me feel even better now!! Thanks again for your support and understanding and most of all LISTENING TO MY RANTS!!!!!!!!!!!!! #00sign_thanks#
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Post by Charlie Girl on Jan 11, 2006 15:19:51 GMT -5
Good for Morgan!  You must be doing something right to enable her to stand her ground like that. I'm sure you let her know how very proud of her you are! |
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Post by cynthiatweedle on Jan 11, 2006 16:53:02 GMT -5
Ditto on what Charlie Girl said. What a neat kid!!
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Post by misty on Jan 11, 2006 17:24:59 GMT -5
YAY MORGAN!!  That just goes to show:  And you'll do FINE!! |
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Post by Linda on Jan 11, 2006 20:28:11 GMT -5
I don't think it has anything to do with ADHD either! You have a really mature little girl to stand up to this other girl! Pat yourself on the back mom!  |
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Post by jabg92 on Jan 11, 2006 23:48:32 GMT -5
#44hugs# #00sign_thanks# #33bighug2#
We are very proud of Morgan!! #1littleangel#
2 days in a row now and the little girl is still being nice to her. Apparently, she knows NOW Morgan will NOT put up with it anymore!!! #00GreatSmiles#
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Post by cynthiatweedle on Jan 12, 2006 10:08:30 GMT -5
Fantastic!!  |
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