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Post by misty on Jul 2, 2006 0:35:36 GMT -5
Oppositional behavior is common among kids with AD/HD. How should parents respond? The answer is often surprisingly simple. By Royce Flippin Every parent knows what it's like to have a child lash out or refuse to comply with even the most benign request. But about half of all parents who have a child with AD/HD live with this kind of abuse on an almost daily basis. That's because 40 percent of AD/HD kids also develop oppositional defiant disorder, a condition marked by chronic aggression, frequent outbursts, and a tendency to argue, ignore requests, and engage in intentionally annoying behavior. How bad can it get? Consider these real-life children diagnosed with both AD/HD and ODD: ............ www.additudemag.com/ourkids.asp?DEPT_NO=301&SUB_NO=45
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Post by Charlie Girl on Jul 3, 2006 0:22:21 GMT -5
It is all good advice. I have tried some of it and it worked well. I will try the rest.
The tough part is controlling my behavior so I can control my child's. LOL
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Post by jill on Sept 5, 2006 9:34:12 GMT -5
I do find myself venting and saying to her why does she have to be so difficult and I did call her a brat once for she drives me crazy at times. I do however when calm will talk it out with her and tell her it is her behavior I do not like but love her no matter what. I still feel like a bad mom when I lose my temper.
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Post by misty on Sept 5, 2006 9:43:06 GMT -5
I think we all lash out at least once in a while...itsd only natural living the sleep deprived, stressful life of trying to teach & deal with our ADDers every day.
The thing is, we feel GUILTY & then do our best to apologize & explain to our children WHY we lashed out. I firmly believe that the feeling of guilt is what sets good parents apart from the lousy ones. Parents who dont care & end up harming their children are the ones who NEVER feel that guilt!
Besides, I think the apology & showing them we can change also teaches them that everyone slips up once in awhile & it teaches them how to deal with it when you do slip up.
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