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Post by misty on Jul 4, 2006 23:52:48 GMT -5
Why Other Children are Rejecting Your Child Developing healthy peer relationships is critical for the normal development of an ADHD child. Peer relationships have been found to be an important predictor of positive adult adjustment and behavior. Difficulty in finding friends leads to feelings of low self-esteem and these feelings usually continue into adulthood. Children with poor social skills are at risk for delinquency, academic underachievement, and school drop out. Even though the inattentiveness, impulsiveness, and restlessness frequently persist into adult life, these problems are of less importance as the child gets older. Rather, the main difficulty ADHD patients encounter as they reach maturity is their inability to interact appropriately with others. Read on: www.adhd-made-simple.com/Social_Skills.html |
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Post by Charlie Girl on Jul 23, 2006 11:24:15 GMT -5
Something I recognized as a biggie in my son's life is wanting to dominate play. He finds it hard to get interested in what other kids are doing if he is thinking of another game or interest, so he tries to make them play what he wants to play.
Of course, when you have a few kids enjoying something, they are not going to want to stop that to humor one kid, so then he gets angry and yells.
Does anyone else have a child who thinks he should be the one to choose what to play and when to play it, and gets upset when the others don't agree?
How do you handle it? Lecturing doesn't seem to work. I usually end up making my son come in the house until he settles down, which can take ages.
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Post by misty on Jul 24, 2006 10:11:45 GMT -5
I handle it the same way Barb. I make Shannon come in until she has control of herself.
She does like to be the leader & I actually see more of this as she gets older. Her & her friends dont so much "Play" any more but she gets upset if someone else chooses the movie or the music. Its like she just doesn't want to bend, although she surely expects her friends to bend & do/listen to what SHE wants!
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Post by jill on Sept 5, 2006 9:31:17 GMT -5
My daughter gets socialization group at school part of her IEP. She also will be starting socialization groups at the University tonight part of the study I got her into. I am excited I will be in my first parenting class while she does socialization with other kids like herself.
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Post by notellin on Nov 9, 2006 12:52:00 GMT -5
My son also wants to dominate play. But he does not yell, he just leaves and plays alone and then cries later b/c no one would play his game. I talk to him about "making a deal for himself." Play what they want to play, and then suggest something else after some time has passed, or negotiate playing his game next time. I also tell him that he cannot have his way all of the time, and I hardly ever get things my way. He's starting to come around. I've got him on a waiting list for a social skills class also.
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Post by lostmyshoe on Nov 16, 2006 9:17:33 GMT -5
Jill, I sure wish there had been a socialization program available for my daughter. That sounds like a really wonderful thing. Notellin, my daughter used to play alone a lot when she was younger until she made a few good friends. She is doing better now but she has always been a little behind in the social area. Misty, thanks so much for the great article. The books look great and I think I may just purchase the ones that relate to my daughter. She is finally starting to make more friends but it took her a while due to her have trouble with things like impulsivity, attitude and relating to her peers. I have done a lot of work with her and she is doing so much better but I think the books can help even more. Thanks so much for the great article and info!
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Post by lostmyshoe on Nov 18, 2006 12:02:05 GMT -5
Good News! When my daughter went back to school after our vaca she said the girls welcomed her back. She was kind of surprised. She has really worked hard this year to develop friendships and get along better with people and I think it has really payed off. I'm praying things will continue to go well for her. She was so happy when she came home from school yesterday. I'm so proud of her.
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Post by Charlie Girl on Nov 18, 2006 16:39:32 GMT -5
Thats great Losty! I'm so happy for her.
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Post by jill on Nov 24, 2006 11:53:23 GMT -5
For socialization I try to play with her and try teaching her through play. I also when she is with another child do a lot of bridging and talking to my child when it is us two.
as for the study I do not know what she got out of the social groups but the parenting classes I had I did not learn anything new all the things suggested we already do. Most of what I had learned was from message boards and others I was hoping to learn new materials to share.
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Post by lostmyshoe on Nov 24, 2006 20:09:34 GMT -5
I know what you mean Jill, I think I've learned more here, online and from doing a lot of reading then parenting classes I took when Becca was small. I have worked with Becca a lot too and done the bridging too. I have a good relationship with Becca's friends and I think that is important tool. So far she is having a pretty good year. Her second school dance is next Friday. She was so nervous going to first one and wound up having a great time. I hope the second is just as fun. I let you all know how it goes.
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