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Post by unicorn-tiff'smom on Nov 2, 2006 17:39:36 GMT -5
I received this article via e-mail. It was quite good. Newsmaker: Helping Your Child Make Friends Kids with ADD or a learning disability often have poor social skills. In his new book, It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend, Richard Lavoie brings his 30 years of experience in working with troubled children to this vexing problem. ADDitude contributor Carl Sherman, Ph.D., recently spoke to Lavoie from his home in Barnstable, Massachusetts, where he lives with his wife, Janet. Can parents do anything to help their kids make it socially? Parents must realize that, while most kids learn social skills naturally by watching others, children with ADD and learning disabilities have to be taught. One technique that works really well is what I call the "social-skills autopsy." Get the rest of the interview by clicking the below link: additudemag.com/additude.asp?DEPT_NO=106&ARTICLE_NO=5 |
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Post by lostmyshoe on Nov 5, 2006 14:34:37 GMT -5
Really great article Uni. I can so identify with it. I had a hard time in grade school but did always have a few close friends. I really worked hard on my social skills and by High School I had a decent amount of friends. It's so true that Socialization skills have to be taught to some ADDers. I am always giving Becca tips on developing friendships and getting along with people. Articles like this one are such a big help. Becca doesn't have a ton of friends but we are working on it. She does much better then I did when I was her age and I am very proud of her. Even though she cares about fitting in she is not a follower and not afraid to be her own person.
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Post by misty on Nov 5, 2006 15:01:32 GMT -5
The thing is, I think we need to really look & see if our kids are happy with just a few friends or not. Shannon has 2 really close friends. She has a lot of friends, but just 2 that shes close to & spends alot of time with. But the main thing is, Shes HAPPY that way. Shes not a follower either & tends to dress in her own style & refuses to be manipulated into doing what others are doing just for the sake of being one of the gang. I LIKE that quality & encourage it.
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Post by lostmyshoe on Nov 5, 2006 15:43:45 GMT -5
Good point Misty. Becca is happy with the few close friends that she has. She tells me she'd rather have a few nice friends then lots of snobby ones which I applaude her for. The only problem with having just those few friends is that when they aren't around she feels alone. This is why I encourage her to be open to some new friendships. What I tell her is that they don't have to be close friends but if she is kind and friendly to people, then when her close friends aren't around, she will have other friends to spend time with and get to know. She's actually started to make a new friend this past month and I am very happy for her. She basically makes her own decisions when it comes to friends but I do give her suggestions when she asks or seems unhappy.
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Post by unicorn-tiff'smom on Nov 6, 2006 12:12:50 GMT -5
Tiff does have a lot of close friends and many "friends". We just sold cookies at a booth sale and now have one of those girls over here. She is nice, but was always one of those "friends", this is the first time she has been over, so we'll see how it goes. Her close friends are the ones that when I do let her have some one over they are at the top of the call list or party list.
On the other hand, she does need some social skills help once in a while. She can get very bossy at times.
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Post by jill on Nov 19, 2006 16:38:26 GMT -5
I try to bridge friendships by being close by and gently offering assistance and reminders. The classes she was going to are over and I do not know what she has learned. An example the other day I drove her to school and she normally forces me to play with her until time to go but this morning I noticed a little girl looking at my daughter Annette trying to get her attention. Mind you my child is oblivious so I had to tell her to look and when we got out of the car she asked my girl to walk to class with her. I thought it was great and my child got so excited she ran and I had to chase her to slow her down and tell her to relax and walk with the girl from her class. She finally got it and walked in nicely with the girl and when they got closer to the door I got happy when her friend she likes also joined and all walked together. I feel like however I also have to intervene.
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