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Post by waystressed on Dec 5, 2006 9:46:27 GMT -5
 Hi This is my first time posting on here. I have a 9 yr old boy with ODD and ADHD. He never wants to leave the house and if he does go anywhere with us after about 1 hour he starts to whine and wants to go home. The school has made his life hell for the past 4 yrs. Now the school has told him he can be home schooled. Like it wasn't hard for me to get him to school in the first place and now he wont go at all. He will sit down for about a half hour and does all the work I give him but after that he wants out of the work and wants to play. He is very smart and is lovable and makes you laugh all the time with the things he says but he is here alone with no friends. And no one lives by us with children we want him to play with. I'm just so worried I wont be able to teach him all he needs to know and learn. I'm so stressed out over all this. And was hoping someone else maybe having the same thing or has been here before with their child. Thanks for letting me bend your ear it hard to have kids like this.
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Post by misty on Dec 5, 2006 9:59:31 GMT -5
There are homeschool organizations you can join that get the hiomeschool kids together for field trips & activities. That might help the social aspect. Perhaps he'll make a couple friends & it would give him something fun to do outside the house!
Have you tried boy scouts? My cousin has a 7 year old ADHD.ODD son & he just ADORES boy scouts! He's made some friends & they do some cool activities!
As for the school part, what right did the school have to address your son that way? I'd march up to the district office & give them the what for! They should have come to YOU, not him! And even so, your son have a right to a free public education BY LAW! They cannot make you homeschool him! Did he have an IEP there? If not, then that would be a step to take IF you decide to put him back in.
On the other hand, if you LIKE & WANT to homeschool, then there are MANY resources out there to help. One of the other admins here, CharlieGirl, has recently started homeschiooling her son. I'm sure she will give you some great ideas & help!
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Post by Charlie Girl on Dec 5, 2006 10:13:42 GMT -5
Why did the school tell him he could be homeschooled? Did he ask or were they suggesting it? They can't make you homeschool and if they expel him they have to provide him with an education either by sending him to another school and providing transportation or by having a tutor come to the house. If its a decision you made because you think it would be better for him, then we can help you figure out what to do. To find a homeschool support group in my area, I just did a search for "homeschool support groups, my county". Once one came up I followed the contact information and explained that I had decided to homeschool and why, then asked if there was someone who had had a similar experience who could mentor me. Not only did I have someone referred to me, I was also invited to join and given a list of upcoming activities and costs. They do field trips and sports activities as a group, plus have monthly meetings at member's homes. There was also an open swim night (for anyone in the county) that some take their kids to but which I was unaware of. Try that. Its very important to have people in your area who can help you navigate and get the paper work right, etc. I'm very new to homeschooling but I'll help you all I can and our sister site has a great homeschool board with wonderful, helpful members. You may want to check there also. supportforadhd.proboards31.com/index.cgi?board=homeschooling |
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Post by Charlie Girl on Dec 5, 2006 10:20:45 GMT -5
I hold school over my son's head when he tries to get out of doing his work. The law is that they have to be educated and if he won't do the work at home, my son knows he will be right back in school. If your son hates school as much as mine came to, I'm sure that will be some incentive. I also am setting up a list of things he can earn by doing school cheerfully. He loses privileges if he doesn't comply. Its possible he does so poorly in social situations because he gets overwhelmed easily. That can be a nightmare for an ADHDer. Maybe if you try to find things where there are small groups or even just 1 or 2 kids at a time, he will adjust and socialize better.  Sometimes its hard to do what is right for our kids but hang in there. They appreciate it even when they pretend they don't. |
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Post by waystressed on Dec 5, 2006 12:00:35 GMT -5
Thank you all for all the info.
My son hates school because all they ever do is send him to the office and call me to come take him home.
His school counseler called this morning wanting to know why he was not in school. I told him someone has told him about homeschooling and it is in his head now. He had IEP last year but not yet this year. They are dragging their feet. The school Dr has said to me on many talks that we have had that maybe he would do better being home schooled. And this came up with my son after this Dr did his Eval on my son.
My son like his teacher and the other children in his class but don't like to leave the house to go. And when I try to make him go he has a melt down.
He wants to be with me 24/7. Even when he is upset with me.
Thanks again it is nice to talk to people with the same things going on in their lives.
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Post by Charlie Girl on Dec 5, 2006 16:26:15 GMT -5
I am assuming you live in the US. If not, the same laws don't apply.
If your son had an IEP last year and you didn't sign for it to be removed, they have to follow it until they have another meeting and you agree to him not having one.
If you haven't signed off, I would refuse to. He obviously still needs one or he wouldn't be sent to the office on a regular basis. If he doesn't have a behavioral management plan and you want him to go back to school, you can ask for one to be included.
If you still want to homeschool and haven't signed to get rid of the IEP, the school district still has to provide him with education related services that are covered in the IEP. You can refuse them but the school can't refuse to give them. He would be able to meet a tutor somewhere quiet such as a library nearby and sometimes they can even have them come to your home if that is the best way to meet his needs.
I hope this helps you determine what to do. Frankly, if the school is more concerned with punishing and sending him home than they are with meeting his academic needs, homeschooling may be your best option as long as you think you can do it.
Many states also offer cyber schools which your child can do at home but they are regular cirriculums all done on the computer rather than in a classroom. Many people feel that gives them the best of both worlds. Their child is home where they can help him and he isn't having to deal with situations he can't handle in school but he has regular classes and deadlines.
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